Free Self-Care: 25 Bizarre Ways to Take Care of Yourself
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Tired of Bubble Baths? Try a Blanket Burrito Instead.
Let’s be honest: self-care advice starts to feel like déjà vu after a while. Bubble baths, journaling, meditation—great, but what if your brain just yawns at the thought? Sometimes, what we really need isn’t more calm—it’s a little chaos. A jolt of joy. A nudge toward the absurd.
This list is for when the usual self-care routines feel stale. These 25 weird, free, and slightly unhinged ideas are designed to reset your mood, not your credit card balance. Because sometimes, the most healing thing you can do is wrap yourself in a blanket like a burrito and roll around the living room. Trust me—it’s therapy, just louder.
Joy as Resistance: Why We Need Joy in Burnout Recovery
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In the midst of burnout, it can feel like joy is the first thing to go—and the last thing we think we deserve. But joy isn’t a reward for healing; it’s part of the healing itself. In a world that constantly demands more, choosing joy becomes a radical act. It’s a way of saying, I am more than what I produce. I deserve to feel alive, even when the world is on fire.
This piece explores how joy not only sustains us in our burnout recovery, but actively resists the systems that benefit from our exhaustion. Whether it’s dancing in your kitchen, laughing with a friend, or finding softness in silence—joy is proof that hope is still here. And that’s worth holding onto.
Relationship Therapy: Setting Self-Respect Standards in Dating
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Relationship Therapy: Setting Self-Respect Standards in Dating
Love shouldn't cost you your dignity.
Dating can sometimes feel like a slow erosion of self—especially if you’ve been taught that being “good” means being accommodating, quiet, or low-maintenance. But that quiet self-erasure? That’s not compatibility. That’s code-switching for survival.
The people we let in shape our reflections. If you’re constantly shrinking yourself to make someone else more comfortable—dim your opinions, mute your ambition, dull your joy—they’re not loving you. They’re managing you.
Therapy can help you see the difference.
Relationship therapy isn't just about solving problems with a partner. It’s also about understanding your patterns: Why do you stay when you feel small? Why do you justify mistreatment as “just how dating is”? A therapist trained in relational work can help you untangle that. And more importantly—they can help you raise the bar.
Because here’s the truth:
You don’t have to earn love by being less.
Self-Respect Isn’t an Obstacle—It’s a Filter
Setting standards doesn’t make you high-maintenance. It makes you intentional. When you begin to move through dating with self-respect, everything shifts. You stop chasing the attention of people who aren’t capable of meeting you. You stop explaining your needs like they’re a burden. You begin to believe that your boundaries are an invitation to know you better, not walls to keep people out.
As Maria Popova says,
“The best relationships are not those that make us feel whole—they are those that inspire us to be more wholly ourselves.”
How to Tell If You’re Shrinking for Someone Else
It can be subtle. Here are a few red flags to watch for:
You downplay your accomplishments so they don’t feel “less than.”
You find yourself editing your personality—your humor, your boldness, your needs.
You feel like you’re “too much” for them.
You’re always explaining yourself, apologizing, or second-guessing.
You feel anxious more than you feel at ease.
What Relationship Therapy Offers You
If this resonates, know you’re not alone—and you're not broken. Many of us are healing from systems that told us we had to choose between love and authenticity. Therapy gives you tools to reclaim your wholeness.
It’s not about blaming yourself for who you’ve chosen in the past. It’s about becoming the kind of person who no longer has to apologize for choosing differently in the future.
You get to want more. You get to walk away.
You get to say: If it costs me my peace, it’s too expensive.